Becoming a Mother is a wonderful journey…..with several scary, disgusting, hilarious and frustrating pit-stops along the way (….and I’m only just two years into this thing so, I’ve a lot of treads to make yet).
I thought I was going to rock this Momma thing So Hard, because I had what some Moms never get, years of preparation.
I am a Nanny and was an Infant Room Teacher at a couple daycares throughout the years too. I saw it ALL. Twenty plus diapers a day, food messes galore, the worst of nappers, abundant amount of boogers, I could go on…. Good things too, handprint crafts, homemade jewelry, outdoor treasure hunts, bubbles, snowmen and snow angels, countless story times, and all the hugs!!!
I understood more of what kids need compared to most of my friends (at that stage of our lives, of course). And I also enjoyed leaving those kids all behind me, in the loving arms of their OWN parents, at the end of the day to go home.
Home was peaceful and quiet, clean and organized, with time to myself to plan my next Adult Craft Project, play with my Handsome Hound, have friends over for a BBQ, or vegetate guiltlessly on the couch All Night Long.
**I wonder what I ever did with all that free time??!! Similar to me in collage, looking back at high school, and I wondered then too, WTF did I do with ALL THAT FREE TIME?! This train of thought continues…. what does my “Time” Cost these days? Because it sure isn’t “free” anymore… ok, I digress.
So, I had Years of “Motherhood Training” …. or so I thought. Others would tell me too, how lucky I was to experience “life with kids” before I had my own.
Well, from this Momma to You, A Nanny and A Mommy: Completely Incomparable.
I knew this, I could see the writing on the wall (quite plain and in crayon too), and I chose to divert my eyes. How the kids ran around like crazy when Dad came home, how the “listening ears” (we worked so hard on those during the day) completely shut down. How all the toys magically spread out everywhere, again, and how the questions for the unobtainable things began, followed with the incessant “Please, please, PLEASE, PLEEEZZZZE!?!”. That was my que to Leave! Out the door for me, off to that quiet HOME of mine.
I currently Nanny for three children and I am privileged to bring my son along with me! My son has grown up alongside these children, they are all best of friends. It is super cute sometimes watching my son adapt these children’s mannerisms and making them his own.
During the day, all the children follow the same set of rules. I don’t favor my son over them, they all get hugs and kisses if they get hurt and everyone has equal sitting rights to my lap 🙂 That also means they all have the same consequences for throwing toys or pushing someone.
I will give you one guess as to who gives me the Most Trouble during the day…. You got it! My Son. Throw a toy? Time-out. The others will listen and sit, whereas my son will take off running. He refuses to let me wipe his face and hands after breakfast and lunch, a struggle every time. He is the only one who challenges my “You-Get-One-Last-Warning” look. The other kiddoes have their moments, but are 98% of the time Wonderful…..for me…the Nanny. I know their “listening-ears” shut down when I leave, they instantly run around when Dad gets home, my Day-Time-Reign ends and so do the rules.
BUT……My son has seen through my No-Nonsense Bluff (Do NOT Tell my secret!!) and I have lost the Nanny Power and am just Mom. I am learning how to Parent while working, which is strange. It is hard to find the right balance between Mom and Nanny. Although that is just one more balancing act to add to Life as a Mom.
OH, and the “Motherhood Training” years of opportunity….It Did NOT prepare me for this child of mine.
The late nights and early mornings. The teething and all that attitude that comes with it. The stress of sickness. The strain on our adult social lives. The never-ending sharing of every single chip and cookie. The overwhelming exhaustion.
There are also the tears of joy while holding him for the first time. The feeling of absolute love all in one hug. The memories made from the least expected moments.
In the end I am glad I wasn’t fully prepared for Motherhood…wouldn’t life be boring if it had.
As Always, Wine Pairs Wonderfully with Motherhood, and this week’s selection that helped me through some tough times is Moderna 2015 California Chenin Blanc.
Take it easy out there, enjoy the rest of the summer! Cheers!